Saturday, April 13, 2013

L is for Love

L is for Love. Love of family, friends, and life. Loving is not the same as liking, you can love someone and not like them at all. It is true of everything and everyone.

Love is an amazing thing. We do things that we would not have otherwise considered for those that we love, sometimes they even return the favor. It is never exactly like the fairy tales that poison us as children where boy meets girl and they live happily ever after. There are no arguments because that is where the story ends. 

Love in real life is a bit, OK a lot different. There are ups and downs that can make you doubt what you feel. Living with someone for years to wake up one morning and find that you have fallen out of love is entirely possible. There are no guarantees, divorce rates prove it. The love of your life changes as time goes on, you change as time goes on. Sometimes you grow apart and though you still love one another you move on because you are no longer in love.

Maybe one day you wake up and decide that what you have is not what you signed up for. They did promise you a lifelong honeymoon after all. Actually they did not. The dating phase was hopefully full of butterflies and excitement at seeing their face instead of businesslike discussions of how the two of you would benefit from marriage to each other. 

When it comes to our children often a need to control and micromanage is mistaken for loving them. While keeping them safe and wanting to protect them from the dangers that lurk in the world is part of loving them controlling every move they make is not. It is up to us to love them enough to let them fly away and live the life that makes them happy.

Loving someone means accepting them the way they are and allowing them to live the life they want; not the life that we want for them. 

Do you love the people in your life for who they are or do attempt to change them? Are you prepared for the honeymoon to end and real life to begin? Do you believe in the love of a lifetime?
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