Monday, May 12, 2014

Friends, Lovers and Loss

In this life friends and lovers come and go sometimes like a revolving door. Some of us have had far to many lovers and to few friends. We managed to allow both to slip from our lives as if the wind blew them away.

How many times has someone come into your life for the briefest of moments and taught you a lesson that though you did not want to learn it you had no choice? In the end the lesson was probably one that you should have learned long ago, or a much needed refresher course.

Friends are hard to come by while lovers can be a dime a dozen headache. The endorphin release is the same with love and sex. The same rush of adrenaline leaves you on top of the world; when the high is from sex you are destined to come down at some point. The feeling is amazing while it lasts, savor it until it is gone.

Friends are there when you need them even if the only thing they can do is offer you an ear to listen. There will be times when they'll try to give advice when you need them to be silent but their hearts are in the right place. Do not take them for granted.

Having a friend that is also your lover can be a slippery slope when you have a fight. The risk of losing your friend is always present. The question is not whether or not to take the risk but whether or not you're strong enough to make it through the storm. There are days when you are going to argue but you cannot let that get the best of you.

It is a matter of whether or not the two of you can work past it all and come to an understanding. It is possible to have friendship and love without sex, and to have sex without love. What is difficult is having all three rolled into one and working through the difficulties that come with them. It is not easy to give yourself over to someone completely but it is worth the risk.

There are those that are scared to do this, they will come up with any excuse not to believe you when you say that you love them. That is there problem, not yours. The only thing you can do is decide that you are tired of beating a dead horse and move on. The ones that are open to being loved are easier to love, but the ones that you have to fight for may or may not be worth it.

If you are strong enough to weather the storm that is up to  you, but if they run all over you it is time to severe the ties.

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