Elimination is the act of removing
someone or something that is not important. You can ignore it, throw
it away or divorce it. There are laws against burying it in the
backyard. What? There are. Eliminating items and people from your
life has its benefits.
This is a lesson that I am doomed to
repeat on numerous occasions; hopefully this is the last time. In
September I moved with two backpacks of things that made no sense to
anyone but me. I left everything that I had worked so hard to replace
and started over with my youngest child.
The change was not without help and
support but it was a rough one. It had not been planned but forced,
and the time spent without my husband had brought a lot of things to
light that would not have come to light with him in my home. (I hope
he is enjoying it, summer will be here soon and he won't have a
paycheck.)
Someone recently told me something in
the course of conversation that made me think. It was something they
had told someone that had put them in a similar position; “if you
can live with it, I can live without it.” It made me think about a
few things.
Not the first time
This is not the
first time I have left somewhere with less than a quarter of what I
own and started over. What made this time different? It wasn't just
my things that were left behind; my youngest daughter made a large
sacrifice this time. It dawned on me that my biggest problem was that
I had to leave her things behind and our beloved pets.
Had it merely been
me replacing everything would not have stung; it would have been a
tradeoff. Give up material possessions to get away from a violent
drunk that I never should have been with in the first place.
Eliminating him from my life is something that I will never regret. I
should never have been with him; had I not been in a desperate
situation to begin with I never would have been. Leaving him was
merely correctly a mistake I never should have made.
Clarity
Elimination of the
things that cause stress is one of the best ways to achieve clarity.
I am almost there. I am determined that this time the lesson will not
be one that is to be repeated in a few short years.
In the meantime
the determination of what is a need and want is becoming easier to
make. Until next time I hope that the things that are eliminated from
your life are the best and not the worse.
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