Independence is something that we all strive for, it gives us a feeling of pride and accomplishment. Illness can interfere with this feeling when we find ourselves in need of help from someone else simply to meet our basic needs of daily living. Having a small child to take care of makes resting from the slightest illness a luxury.
Children begin practicing their independence long before we are ready, especially when we are too sick to supervise. Being a single parent and attempting to keep your child out of things they aren't supposed to be in when illness takes over is difficult. Teaching a child boundaries is even more difficult when they have no concept of them and that budding independence can make you feel as if you want to pull your hair out.
There is a thing as too much independence when it comes headstrong children. The problem is that you want them to make their own choices and become self sufficient adults but you want to protect them from the dangers of the world at the same time. It can be difficult to know when to let go and when to hang on as tightly as you can to prevent harm from coming to your children.
Giving them small choices for things from an early age can go a long way. The choices only get harder as they get older and you want them to be prepared. Unpleasant surprises happen every day in the real world, being there for your children is all that you can do.
Have a good day and enjoy your independence hopefully it is free from illness.