Odds and Ends

Happiness seems to be rare these days. I have noticed a lot of people that are not happy, and few that attempt to fake it in an effort to keep the world out of their business. It is out of self defense that people do these things. Some of them are afraid that people will hurt them and others prefer to be alone. Figuring out the difference can be difficult, but not entirely impossible. Getting close enough for them to let you behind the curtain so to speak is all that you have to do. Reality is often why they are the way they are. It can hit when you least expect it, such as during casual conversation. An odd moment occurs when you have two separate conversations because neither of you are paying attention even though you thought you were both intensely focused on the conversation. The speaker might not be attempting to be rude but that is how they come off.  They could have simply stated a fact that you know but felt that there was no need for them to tell you at that moment....

There are times when people do things that hurt others just to make them do what they know is right. It is something that they do out of love, yes love. While difficult to understand at the time there can be a moment of clarity that allows us to see what we couldn't while it was happening. The things that we do for those we love to get them to do what we know is right are many and some of them hurt them. It's a simple concept that few understand until they live it. "I'll be the bad guy, I'll take the black eye." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mVGm93II-UA Just listen to the words, it'll sink in soon enough.

It has been a week of confusion that is not going to simplify itself anytime soon. I am not sure when it happened but life is becoming something strange to me. The things that used to be routine are no longer the norm for us. It is what we are learning to adjust to. Through June 2nd I am hosting a virtual party . (The link will open in a new window.) It is a make-up party, the products are ones that I have fallen in love with instantly. It even makes me feel better just to put it on, even when I am having a horrible day. You can see the results for yourself. At the moment I am easing into wearing make-up again so you'll notice just some eye pigment, mascara and lip gloss. While I do not consider myself to be ugly, I am not ready to flaunt on the runway either.  The Younique line is making me feel better, and it doesn't feel heavy like other things I have used. In fact I have fallen so far in love with it that I am planning to become a presenter. I can enjoy the produc...

"Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers. Just remember when you're talking to the man upstairs just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he doesn't care." - Garth Brooks The song is about a man introducing his wife to his high school sweetheart. He is realizing that things worked out for the best. It is a lesson that we all learn at some point. He had imagined that he would spend his life with her, and like many high school romances it didn't work out. Years later he is married to someone else and realizing that the memories he had are not what he thought they were at all. Time had made the picture less of a fairy tale, and more of a young man's dream. The reality he has is better than the fantasy he created all those years ago. Everyone has someone whom they believed that they would cease to exist without. The pain of losing them or never having them feels as if you have breathed your last. I have been told of those that die ...

It is always a good thing to have friends that are family; the ones you can rely on when everything falls apart. They are always there to lend a helping hand, and lift your spirits when it feels as if the world is ending. Then there are those that claim to be there for  you through anything and everything until  you have nothing left to give them. You should be weary of these people. The problem is that it can take months for their true nature to be revealed. You can be under the illusion that you have a friend that will be there through anything until you really need them emotionally. There are those that make everything about them no matter how badly you are hurting; these are the "friends" that you do not need. Those that are so self absorbed and arrogant that they make the assumption that any problem you have emotionally is directly related to them are those that you do not need. It can be frustrating to try and find comfort just to discover that you are only a friend...

They aren't always a bad thing, in fact they can be the best thing at times. Even the worst endings can lead to the best beginnings, and new memories. It is only in the aftermath of shattered pieces, or celebrations that we realize just what the endings mean to us. Paying the Price There is a price for everything that we do, and sometimes it is great. Though there is the occasion when it is small enough that it does not make a dent in our reality. When the price we pay is the ability to move on to something better then everything is worth it. What happens when the price is higher than we wanted to pay? Let's examine both sides. It won't be a drawn out endeavor today, just a brief glance. When things ended on a bad note it can make us resentful of the situation and everything that was involved with it. Regrets come from this type of ending but nothing can be done about them in the end.  When the ending destroys your sanity it is a good bet that it went badly....

Everyone has lied and been lied to. Let it sink in.... It is a fact of life, even when the lies were not intended to hurt you they can. Sparing someone's feelings with a lie means that you have to remember the lie that you told. It could go on for an eternity to ensure they are going to be fine without ever finding out. What happens when they find out? In all reality it depends on the person. There are those forgive even the biggest of lies easily while others use the tiniest of lies to shut people out. It is often seen as the ultimate betrayal. It falls under "you can do anything, just don't lie to me," and it's a concept that some people have difficulty understanding. The mentality is that nothing is as bad as you think it is as long as you are honest about it. There are those that will never understand this concept. They believe that whatever they do is fine as long as they do not get caught. The Flaw  Liars always get caught eventually. It is in th...

The issues that matter the most are often the ones that are most avoided as topics of conversation. I have often wonder why this is, and I began to think about it. I decided to share what I thought with you to see if any of you agree. I have started to think that the reason some topics are avoided is that they are to painful to discuss, or the one attempting to get you to talk about them makes you uncomfortable. We all have that one friend that is always to busy talking to listen; they interrupt at two words and begin giving advice that shows they do not have a clue what is going on in the world around them. There is that friend that gives advice based on something they did a century ago without ever realizing that things might have changed since then. They do not realize that some of the things they tell you would actual cause you to commit fraud if you followed the advice they were giving. Then they tell you things that are actually their confessions to fraud after the fact. Av...